What They Don't Tell You About Being an Adult | Pep Talk

When you're young, adults warn you about things.

"You'll work and work and never have enough money."

"Everything breaks when you buy a house."

"You get gray hair and can't lose weight."

"It becomes harder and harder to move around."

All of these things may be true for some people, or most people, but there are countless other warnings. However, they forget one. I had no idea this was even a thing.

YOU WILL NEVER HAVE TIME FOR ANYTHING. EVER.

WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL ME?

Lately, my life has been a blur. I work. I come home (sometimes). I work on my business stuff. I meet with brides, catering clients, vendors, bosses, employees, etc. I find myself already committing every night of my week to one thing after another. And ya know what? Most of it involves little interaction with my family and friends. I can't remember the last time I went out with my girlfriends. Literally can't remember.

Please don't misunderstand, I am not complaining, but rather REALIZING what my reality has become. And I'm done with it. I'm tired of never feeling rested, not getting to see my family, not taking time for my marriage, or just as worse, myself. I find my sanity slipping out the door because my brain is on overdrive all the time. The worst part about all of this is the people I've talked to, my peers, feel the exact same way.

Our generation is overcommitting and overexerting ourselves to the point where we aren't living. *Side note: my spell check is telling me 'overcommitting' isn't a word, and maybe it isn't, but I Googled it. Look how the use of the word 'overcommit' has increased in the past 50 years. Maybe it wasn't really a recognized word, but I honestly think it has to do with our incessant need to be involved in EVERYTHING. ALL THE TIME.

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How is it that my parents were able to sit down for dinner every night with my brother and I? (Mom, maybe I'm just clouded with overly-positive childhood memories because I really thought we ALWAYS had dinner together.) How was my entire extended family able to gather each Sunday for a post-church lunch? Why do I remember being babysat as a kid so my parents could go do stuff together? I cannot fathom how that would work in my life right now. I am so thankful for my job because I LOVE it. I am so thankful for my business because it is what I have wanted to do for so long, and it's actually happening. I am incredibly blessed by the ministry I'm a part of at church. But all of these things, which are blessings, can also be served in too big a dose.

So I'm taking a step back from life, so I can start living. I'm going to set boundaries for myself. No working past a certain time, even if important work must be done. No missing out on time with my family because I need to get caught up on blog posts. Spend time with my Creator, the One who saved me. Be healthier for me, my husband, and my brides. What good is a raggedy ol' wedding planner anyway?! And why do I feel as though I've written this same post before. ENOUGH!

I encourage you to do the same. Like Dave Ramsey teaches that every incoming penny must be allocated, you have to pay yourself the rest you deserve. Sleep. Take naps. Pray. Eat. Do things that make you not bonkers all the time. Take some time to smell the roses.

Cal will always be my default blog image. He's too cute not to be.

Cal will always be my default blog image. He's too cute not to be.

Signing off to eat some ice cream.