I might get in trouble for this one. Ha! But seriously, they are out there, bridezillas. Out in the wild. Prowling. You might know one or two...or you've at least seen the show on TLC. I have known a few (from a distance) in my time here on this green Earth. I've been extremely fortunate to have worked with gentle, calm brides...and I hope the streak continues. So whether you're a fiance, mother of the bride, or future bridesmaid, maybe this will help you handle a potentially stressful situation.
- Remember that the bridezilla is freaking out on the inside. "Will my wedding be grand enough, perfect enough, pretty enough, memorable enough?" Our culture of comparison is a nasty, poisonous venom. It leaks into everything we do. (Cal just compared it to a skunk releasing their stink - they get scared and try to scare everyone away! HAHA!) Be gentle with her. Approach with caution.
- Let the bridezilla make her own mistakes. I'm not saying let her wedding be a complete failure, but perhaps the beast must be allowed to wreak havoc for a short time - and see the result of her actions. Maybe her tastes are exorbitant, unrealistic. She'll figure it out when her budget starts to dwindle.
- Never criticize or threaten the bridezilla. Instead, reward the good choices and behaviors with praise. We humans like praise. I imagine bridezillas do, too. I think it's also important to be honest. If she is difficult to get along with, she needs to know. Tell her lovingly. Besides, she'll appreciate having happy memories of her wedding experience.
- Forgive her. In all seriousness, this bridezilla is a person. Give her a second chance. If you're her maid of honor, hug her. (If she won't let anyone hug her, I don't know what will help!) If she's your daughter, call in your emotional support team to help see you through. The wedding will come and go, and hopefully, so will the bridezilla's temper.
Are you a bridezilla? Were you one? How do you know? Do you demand things of your bridal party that are unrealistic? Have you yelled at your groom over simple things? I'm sure all of us had at least a little beast inside of us at one point. While we can be so worried about making sure things are done exactly how we want them, maybe focusing on who we are doing it with is more important.